This secluded yet open lifestyle is becoming a bit more relevant among those that are between the ages of 35-50 years old. The older I get the more I learn that I don't know half of what I thought I did when it comes to relationships and sex. As we evolve our thought process shifts and perceptions are more complex because we start to understand the endless possibilities of nearly everything and everyone.
"I play well alone but I have much more fun with others." - Anna Mae Blanco
I crack up when someone judges those that prefer to live lifestyles that express who they are, rather than following what society deems to be right. Whether you are part of monogamy, polyamory, arranged marriages, or practicing celibacy what does it matter to others? Many times people give advice and suggestions for others' lives but hardly ever apply the same concepts to their own lives.
I was afraid to enter...
I had the pleasure of visiting a swingers club a few months ago. My experience was eye awakening as I have heard so many wild stories about what occurs in clubs like this. I did my research before visiting like I was about to purchase a car. I feared I would stick out like a sore thumb because it was my first time. The greeter used the most seductive voice tone as she welcomed everyone in. Her lips were drenched in red lipstick while her body embraced being wrapped in black lace, covering only the places you could imagine. Walking into a candle-lit hall with powder white chairs that resembled thrones, trimmed in gold, the aroma of crisp linen filled the club, and red rose petals covered the floor. Leading to a common area with seating space that faced a dance floor. The DJ played music that made you want to tap your feet, bob your head and even wiggle your middle. I went in expecting to see nudity everywhere but didn't. Everyone including myself was well-dressed and seemed to have come to just chill. I was excited that it was BYOB because I didn't want to stand in a line for twenty minutes for one drink.
The Escorts
I found a nice cozy sofa with a small table in front, just for me. I think I counted three couples near me. One older guy possibly 60 with a young lady that could have been in her 20s. I noticed what appeared to be a double date with two young men and two young ladies. They were pretty interesting because it seemed like this was the norm for them. A couple walked in and sat near me only to start smiling and chatting away. At this point, I thought it was safe to ask about the spot. It was their third time at the spot and they had started to like it, finding themselves getting more comfortable with it. They were trying to spice up their relationship by branching out and trying new things. We laughed and talked for a bit, going on to tell them this was my first time and it was something I've always wanted to experience. I was single and didn't have to explain my reasoning for wanting to try something new. I failed to mention to them how I sat in my car for thirty minutes before convincing myself that I wasn't afraid to go inside. The couple gave each other a grin and went on to ask me if I had walked around to see the club. I told them no, I had found my spot and sat there observing. They offered to walk me around to see the place only for us to accidentally purposely walk into a real live set of fucking. All that was missing were the lights and cameras because the action had already taken place. My eyes shot out of my head as the cum shot out of the guy that was enjoying fellatio on the couch next to three other guys that were engaging in the same act. The foursome took place openly on the bed that sat on a platform about one and a half feet off the floor. Truly this caught my attention as I hoped to see everyone participating and not just a typical gangbang. They laughed as I was in awe of what I had just witnessed. As we walked up the stairs there was one couple in a bed that was draped in a sheer white canopy, making the hottest and most passionate love I've ever seen. It was as though they had a role in Fifty Shades of Grey plus edition.
Jeepers Creepers
At this point, I couldn't take it anymore, I needed to go back to my area and process all that I had witnessed. The couple asked how I liked the club and my reply was none other but... I love it. I have never been around people so free and open in their sexual desires and sexuality. It made me think of the church congregating with a common purpose and belief. I guess that would be any organization or social club. It was a non-judgemental environment and everyone seemed to understand each other with the utmost respect. There was no one coming up to you with their ding dong asking to be pleased and there was no one acting creepy.
It's not for everyone
I have attempted conversations with others about their views and thoughts on this sort of atmosphere. The majority of my circle probably would never and then there are some that would never admit to their desires of wanting to experience this one day. The fear of being seen, and judged by others is the biggest concern for most people. We are so afraid to live in our truth because of these very reasons. Being transparent in a world that will nearly bash you for anything is hard. But the one thing that is easy is living your life for yourself and not others.
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