Saying, I need a man would ruffle some women's feathers. I believe the term "need" sounds so hard up or desperate to some. Men are essential to the creation of women and just as well the other way around. A man's role is vital to the world itself.
"If there was no you, there would be no me..." -Earth Waters
I grew up during a time when women being independent was acknowledged through music. Artists such as Beyonce, Destiny's Child, Webbie, Ne-Yo, and many more contributed to the independent era of women. The influence has trickled down to women celebrating the independency of other women. Nothing is better than seeing women support each other in their endeavors. But the issue that I am seeing is that majority of these women are single and do not feel that a man is beneficial to their lives. This has been seen throughout the African American culture to be specific.
Let's do away with "Galentine's Day", I think our men would like some attention/pampering other than sex.
Housewife or Nah
It is nearly a disgrace to sit at home, cook, clean, and take care of the family in the African American culture. In other cultures, taking on the role of being a housewife is embraced and normalized throughout the world. I can recall my grandmother being at home and rarely leaving the house unless it was to restock the house or pay bills. She cooked three meals a day, cleaned constantly, raised ten children (sex seems to be necessary), did laundry and every check that came in was placed in her hand. She was trusted to handle the business of the house. Grandfather didn't have worries that his money would go on hair weave, fake nails, BBL surgery, liquor, or shopping sprees. Yes, times have changed since then because I don't see how a one-income household would survive during this time, especially with the increase in the cost of living. I find it necessary for both adults to work full-time to be able to survive comfortably. This would mean that there are shared responsibilities when maintaining the house and taking care of the business.
What has shifted women's perspectives and behaviors towards men and why?
What role do men have in how women see them now?
The lack of support could be a great issue in why women feel that they must rely on their friends and associates to support their dreams and visions. Men can often blow off women when they are talking about things that are important to them. Men are known for not listening and giving their full attention to their women. As a woman, we like feedback and ideas that support our business plans, goals, and simple things like what to wear. But there may be deeper reasons why this is. Men have a history of not being satisfied with just one person and many statistics show this. (Do your research) This may contribute to how women perceive men making it hard for them to find value in the benefits of having a man in their lives. The greatest need some women seek from men is emotional support. Many times, men are not connected to their own emotions and suppress them in other ways to avoid appearing weak to the outside world. Furthermore, it throws a wrench in how they respond to their woman and her emotional needs.
Benefits of the Man
Making your own money is always a plus as well as having materialistic things. But there can't be a sensual connection to these things. When single there is no in-house support system or someone to cheer you on when you want to give up. Though men seem not to listen or pay attention to the needs of their women, they do weirdly. Men may not always have the right answers, but their touch, protection, and man duties are necessary and shouldn't go unnoticed. Let's be clear not all of them come with benefits that would add value to our lives. But when one shows you that they are worth cherishing, keep them around. Men are not walking banks, sex machines, and not punching bags.
All men are males but not all males are men.
Some qualities that women still expect from men:
Holding doors
Pulling out the chair
Intimacy/Sex
Reproducing/Family
Heavy lifting
Balance
Logical Thinking
Companionship
Basic Car/House Maintenance
Financial Support
Leaders of the home
Monogamy
Marriage
Feminist Movement
Let me first say, women are not equal to men and men are not equal to women. I am not sure where this became acceptable. But there are no hard feelings towards Lucretia Coffin Mott, Sojourner Truth, Elizabeth Cady Stanton, Lucy Stone, and Susan B. Anthony as well as many others that fought for women's rights. But this movement has tainted how the world sees women and how women see themselves. Honestly, I would not want to walk in the shoes of a man, do manly jobs, or be treated equally to a man. The reason for most of these ideas is centered around lesbianism of those who accept the role of being manly. This goes beyond physicality because of how the world responds to the differences in being a male or female. Discrimination is an underlining factor when it comes to women and me. One excerpt would be women have a hard time in leadership roles versus men having a hard time in leadership roles of the family.
All in all, there should be a great balance between the two. Knowing your role as a woman or man will help in how we see each other and what we expect from each role. The roles are significant to the world around us. We need each other to survive here. Whether you were born as a male or female, it does not take away from being who you walk this earth as. People will respond to your presence as they wish. We must know who we are and where we fit in. Think of yourself as a puzzle piece where there is one unique shape that will complete the puzzle. There are no two pieces alike. Women are not equal to men. We are unique creatures that need men to be unique in their way. Being equal to men in every aspect would make the world boring.
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