Well, let me just say sex has to be the most beautiful act placed upon us. Though it varies based upon whom the act is performed it can turn out to be either a beautiful nightmare or an ugly dream.
" Earth's showers bring forth fruits" - Earth Waters
Art is the expression in which creativity comes to life. Art is seen in nearly everything by anyone who has a creative eye. Art can be visual, physical, and mental. Sex/Love Making can be classified as a type of art dependent upon the artist as well as the observer.
The sex breakdown before comes in two categories of sex," love making" and "fucking." There are five different types of sex. Of course, we know oral sex, masturbation, vaginal, anal, and fingering…But yet, it doesn’t stop there because the types break down into possibilities based on creativity with inanimate objects, rimming, and more. I’ve heard sex is sex and I beg to differ because it is the sense of fulfillment after the act of sex is over. The feeling of the climax is the same yet still lasts less than a minute to come to an end. But the effects of how the climax is reached linger around your thoughts and throughout your body that makes the difference. This is based upon who participated in the act, what skills were performed, and the connection or attraction you have with that person.
The positions, skills, and experience play a huge role in the response of your partners' reactions during intercourse. Knowing yourself and what you like is important to help your partner understand the assignment at hand. The variations in positions can be tailored to your sex style. Sex styles can be based on dominant and submissive roles in the bedroom. Sexual positions are preferred more than others among these two types of sex styles. Though some may be open to both styles there will always be a more dominant role that will take charge. May I add that these styles and roles are not factors of being male or female?
Positions Ranked 1-10
Doggy Style (Old time favorite)
Plow (Deeper Strokes)
Butterfly (Full throttle)
Splitter (Unison Reciprocation)
Wheelbarrow (Harder strokes)
Standing Ovation (Waterfall)
Spooning (Intense Intimacy)
Riding (Lack of Control)
The Cross (Rise and Shine)
Lazy Dog (Ending)
Sex vs. Making Love
There is a difference between making love and simply having sex. The difference between the two is the spiritual (souls) connection shared during intercourse. The behaviors are more intense, meaningful, and twined when making love. Making love comes with a lot of communication between you and your partner before the act. Discuss how the person would like to be handled, explaining acts of symbolic representations, time and place, props, setting, ice breakers, desserts, etc. I once thought that making love was simply having sex at a slower pace and making out. But once I experienced it, I found out it was more mental and spiritual than anything else with the focus on satisfying your partner. Making love with these things in mind will give you the orgasm you are desiring. On the other hand, the objective of empty sex is to ejaculate with you being the only person in mind. Having empty sex is usually rushed, straight to the point, and more aggressive, with hardly any aftercare connections such as cuddling or pillow talk. It is often selfishly done if there is no chemistry between the two. This is the possible reason that sex can be seen as overrated and the term is thrown around so carelessly.
Significance of Foreplay
The importance of foreplay during intercourse determines the results of sex. Foreplay would have to be the most intimate part of lovemaking. This practice intensifies the sensitivity to body parts while igniting the desires for each other. Foreplay should be where most of the time is spent exploring each other’s bodies as if you have never seen them before. Asking questions during this time is important to get feedback from your partner to see what he or she likes, what they are feeling, and if there are any requests for more attention in other areas. Remembering when making love is not about you it’s about fulfilling the needs of your partner so that it is reciprocated with the same energy. Communication is important at this time to help guide your partner to another level or even an alter ego to bring out the best sexual versions of themselves. This can only take place with the right partner so choose carefully.
Sexual alter egos seem to come out depending on how deep the connection is between the two, during foreplay. You will find yourself doing things you have never done, saying things you have never said, and being open to things you said you would never do. Considering who the right partner is will be determined by how much time is put into the person, developing a personal relationship, being honest and open in communication, and building a foundation for the relationship. The term does not mean dating or attempting to get married unless it is discussed during the personal relationship phase where there is honest and open communication.
Sexual intimacy should not be intended to be done with just anyone but making sure there is a connection before getting into sexual acts so that it may be the most beautiful experience and healthiest sexual lifestyle. Make your experience a beautiful nightmare so that you do not have to regret giving your body away to someone who didn't deserve it, taking one for the team, or hiding the fact that it never happened...
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